Here's To The Dreamer's That Dream

When someone decides to take small steps to reach a goal that will lead to a path of what they want to do for a career, why do some like to hose it down with full force like firefighters hosing out a fire?

Does it sound dramatic? Yes and no, at my previous job outside work there was a young girl around 18-20 who busked in the high street. She is so talented for a young girl, who gave Amy Winehouse vibes with her singing, she has soul and attracted a small crowd. Her covers ranged from Placebo to Abba showcasing her own versions of them. This alone takes courage to set up a little setlist to practice her singing and build up her confidence. What were the majority of guests remarks as they came in store? “Will someone tell her she's crap, Why’s she shouting, who sings songs like that?” It’s almost like people don't want others to reach their goals and dreams. is it more acceptable to be unhappy in a job or not live out a passion/hobby?

Unleashing my inner Carrie Bradshaw, I had to ask myself ‘Do we envy those who dare to dream?’

The humdrum of adult life slowly takes over and the 9-5 comes rolling in. Why accept that we must wake up, commute, break, lunch, break, then home- eat, sleep and repeat for five days a week until we retire? Yes of course bills need to be paid, or dreams of parenthood and marriage await, but also remember that you are an ADULT. You can make so many things a reality! We can eat cake for breakfast should we wish (not wise, but hey ho) you earn your money. Yet we waste away hours by complaining of small insignificant things that allow us to be consumed by negativity.

To have that ‘normal’ conversation with friends about how they hate their job, same old shit different day. That mentality seems to be more accepted than say, being positive and making small changes to improving life on a day to day basis. Remember when you were young and you either had a huge passion for a hobby whether it be art, writing or a sport, the list goes on and on. Yet as we grow up we tend to just let it wistfully be a past tense and something we once ‘wanted.’

The positive thinking theory hardly ever seems to be put to practice or even considered for many people who complain. For most of the people who I have worked with in the past, they have wanted something in life, but feel it’s too late due to age because of their education etc there is always a reason as for why they can’t. Is it more of a cant cook/ wont cook scenario?

If you have a passion do not let it die. it's a tough world and a short life. Even if you feel you cannot make it a full-time career take small steps to ensure that a stereotypical adult life does not let that sparkle die. Too many people end up with so many regrets with what they never got to do. If you love to sing, do open mic nights, put yourself out there via social media -the internet is a fantastic weapon and a platform that wasn't as accessible back in the day.

If you want to further your education but don't want to go to college or uni with younger people, research online courses. If you want something bad enough you have to put in the work to achieve success. A dear friend taught me the lesson of putting it out there into the universe and it will happen, and I used to think of it as hippy talk. Since that theory has been practised great things have happened, the want over will is another fab lesson. Instead of saying ‘I want to do etc.’ replace want with “I will”. This will then make it more of a reality.

I will get that new job!’ ‘I will join that gym class.’ It may sound silly, but being negative sounds a whole lot worse! I too thought like this. I worked full-time even though I had a degree in Magazine Journalism. I always put off even venturing anything in near the media, because I either thought a) I wasn't good enough and b) Had no real ‘work’ experience besides university and c) Had no idea where to start.

However, I plucked the courage up to research how and where to get experience. This led me to the freelance world, not only that but I found my niche in Drag, lifestyle, and travel. With time and a lot of patience, I worked from home where I eventually decided the remote working world wasn’t for me.

My work ethic is to now diminish the negativity and to dedicate building up online website Dragadvenures, where it is flourishing and I’m so incredibly proud of. Besides this I do work full time, as well as freelance write for PR Chrome as well as this fantastic one. It is possible, the first step seems the hardest but truly believe in yourself and trust your gut instinct, after that the hard work begins and it does pay off trust me. So here's to the dreamers that dream, foolish as they may seem…..

Written for More Than A Millennial January 2019

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